It Doesnt Matter Who Came First, All that Matters is Who Came and Never Left

Is the theory of always being attached to your first love or the first person who took your virginity true? Or is it just a misconception that we have all fooled ourselves into believing. I personally think love has no rules, maybe you will forever be attached and maybe you won't. It all depends on the profound effect that person had on your life. Does it mean that because I was completely and utterly in love with my first love, that nobody else could compare to that, I don't think so.

We have all been jealous at some point in our lives because of our partners past, why? because you love them and you want to be the first for them at everything. Problem with that is, 9/10 times you won't be and you just have to deal with that. We have to remember that the past is exactly what it is, the past, it's a reason whomever they were with never made it to their future. Being the first doesn't mean being the best, We fail to realize that sometimes.

Instead of getting jealous about what your partner shared with an ex, focus on your relationship, focus on being the best, because no matter how much you bitch about his past, it will never change. Be the best partner he has ever had, you won't be his first but dammnit you'll be the last, you'll be the one that he sticks with, you'll be the one that he loves and cares about. We are humans and we are made of flesh and blood, we fall weak to temptation sometimes and that ugly green eyed monster comes up, but the most valuable thing you can do is to trump it before it rares its ugly head too far, to the point that it ruins your relationship.

Facebook stalking her and going through all her pics, trying to find every reason that you're better than her or prettier than her, or smarter than her, will not make you feel any better. You'll just be the Psycho girlfriend who is obsessesively stalking his ex on social media. It's foolish, they have nothing to do with you or your relationship, but yet you use your free time going over every crooked smile, every bad outfit. Though I can understand the insatiable desire to do it :/ we have all been there at some point, sad to say. Fact of the matter is, women are always in competition with their own sex, there will always be someone out there prettier than, smarter than you, have a better body than you, but hunny, there will never be another you and that's why he's with you and that's why he loves you❤



 

The Premature "I love you"

Let’s just go ahead and start off with a slap in the face for this one. So you're going out with Johnny, you're having a great time, he opens your doors, brings you flowers, pays for dinner, he makes you feel special, says all the right things, You start thinking maybe there is a possibility he could be in your future. One night you go out with him and you're having the best time of your life, and you blurt out I love you, only problem is, you've only been dating for two weeks. Could this be the defining moment for the future of the relationship? Either he'll say it back, or he will run for the hills, or he will explain that he likes you, but thinks you need to spend more time to get to know each other first. If he sees any future or potential in the relationship, he won't let the early “I love you" ruin it.

Why do we say I love you too early in relationships? Because maybe for a moment that's how we feel, there aren't any rules when it comes on to how you feel, you can’t tell yourself how to feel; you just know how you feel. Sometimes love is confused with lust, we know we want them, we know they make us happy, we know we love to spend time with them, but does that mean its love? no it doesn't, it makes it really difficult to address and analyze our feelings sometimes, It's good to just take a step back and ask yourself a few questions, like, do I love this person. If the answer is I don't know, if you have any apprehension whatsoever, it's not love, because the one thing love can never be is unsure.

I love you puts pressure on a relationship when it's said too soon, you’re not just dating anymore, this means you're thinking about the future. If the other person isn't, it could end with you being completely and utterly devastated. Hold off on saying it until you feel secure enough to do so, or until the relationship has blossomed enough.

Love can't be forced, you can't make anybody love you, if someone hasn't said I love you yet, they probably don't just yet, give it time and be patient, take the time to get to know each other and enjoy each other’s company, because if the I love you doesn't feel a 100% right, it probably isn't.