The best relationship you can have is the one you have with yourself and of course with God, nothing else will make you feel more comfortable with your life and relationships. If you are not secure within yourself, how are you going to be with someone else. The minute we learn to love and own all our flaws is the minute you have embraced your true self. Being alone does not mean that there is something wrong with you, you should take that time out to be comfortable with yourself, learn to be alone, so if you have to, you will have no problem doing so. You might realize that all your relationships have been not so successful and you wonder what the problem is, the truth is some of us are attracted to chaos and drama, and when it doesn't work out we wonder why. You were attracted to someone you knew was not good for you, but you chose to go against your better judgement and your intuition. We have to sometimes look within ourselves to find what the problem is . Insecurities play a big part in the persons we choose to be in a relationship with, we often choose partners that match our level of emotional development.
Some people are fixers and we seek out people who need "fixing", because in some weird way, we want to take on something that is a challenge for us, we surround ourselves with these men or women that cause nothing but drama, holding on to hope that some day this person will change, when secretly we love the chaos. You have to establish what purpose you would have if you were not with this person and the drama did not take central focus in your life, you are trying to fix something that was probably damaged from they were a child. Some people don't realize how important primary socialization is to a child. If a baby was left with wolves and monkeys, how do you think the child will grow up acting, like wolves and monkeys. How we are conditioned to think and what we grew up seeing shapes the way we think and the decisions we make in a great way. If you don't fix the problems you have with yourself, you are going to be faced with them in every relationship you have.
THE ONE PERSON YOU CANNOT RUN FROM IS YOURSELF. If God didn't want us to have any negative thoughts, then he would have made us without them, nothing exists without the other, accepting that there is a problem with YOU, is accepting help and happiness into your life. Nobody wants to be around perfection, because it doesn't exist, if you identify yourself as being perfect then there is something you are hiding. Everybody has issues and things they need to work on, it so happens that some are just harder to work on than others, and nothing is wrong with that. You will be respected more for the things that you admit aren't right that you do, than to try and ignore it or cover it up. Loving yourself is the first step you take, being selfish is OK sometimes, then identifying the things that need to be fixed within yourself, getting the right help for them and then the healing process. Taking sometime to get to know yourself is a great thing, being someone's wife or girlfriend doesn't make you more relevant, the person that you are does.
