Spouse treats you like crap, you leave, then they want you back.

 Have you ever had a boyfriend or girlfriend who treated you like the dirt under their shoes, then when you wised up and left, they wanted you back? it's a common case, the first explanation for this is, human beings do not like to be left, they would rather do the leaving. In most cases it hurts a lot more when someone leaves you than if you chose to leave them. Humans just have it in their heads that if I do the leaving first "i win!", which is kinda true, you get the bragging rights, but that doesn't mean you were the one feeling less pain. Some people don't want to be in the relationship, but they stay because they don't wanna be the initiator, they feel relieved if the other spouse does it first,  they genuinely don't wanna be the ones doing the hurting. There are others though, if they have a hint that you are going to break up with them, they jump the gun first, all because they wanna be the one to say, " oh i broke up with her first."


 When someone treats you terribly for a while and you keep taking it over and over again, that only means one thing to me, you're condoning the behaviour. If you stay, in their minds they think they can do whatever they want to you and you won't leave, so it shocks them when you finally get the guts to leave. Humans are creatures of habit and we all know habits are hard to break. How many of you have had a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend, or a bf/gf ( yes gf, don't laugh, it happens) who keeps hitting you and every time he/she says they won't do it again, they end up doing it again. You know why, because those things become a part of their personality, it becomes: KEY WORD, a habit.

It is up to you if you're gonna put up with a bad habit, but remember people treat you how you allow them to treat you. Some have been so accustomed to treating people like crap, they don't even realize they're doing it. Take for instance if someone grows up in a environment where being a jerk is all they see and know, what is the likely outcome of them growing up to be a well rounded mannerable individual, not a big percentage. We are products of our society, we grow up doing what we see in most cases. Primary socialization plays a very big part in the early years of a child's life, it forms a big part of their personality and maps out the adult who they will likely become. So some people just don't know any better and they expect you to just lay down like a doormat and take the stepping on, but what i would do is, shock them by leaving and believe they will want you back, but it's up to you to know your worth.