Ending a Relationship because you don't want to Fall In Love. Stupid or Smart?

The one reason that explains ending a relationship because you don't want to fall in love is the fear that when we fall we won't be caught. Is that such a bad thing, or do we just need to get over the fear and let things happen naturally. Letting it happen would mean we wouldn't be in control anymore, control is a big thing for a lot of people, the fear of letting your walls down and trusting someone may be the hardest thing to do.

On one hand, you could have the most chemistry, the most passion and intensity you may have ever had with one person, but then you see those a-hole qualities in them, that same a-hole that you always choose. You realize you pick the same type of guy over and over again and it never ends well. You know you would probably fall in love and things would become confusing and tangled, so you decide to make the decision to end it before it gets to that point. Now that I can't say is dumb. Now on the other hand, you meet someone, they do all the right things, say all the right things, chemistry is great and you could absolutely see a future with this person, but you become fearful that you'll get hurt so you break it off. Now that I will say is dumb. Letting something go because you fear being hurt, when you know they would be good for you, is a fear we need to let go of.

It's really good to have high standards for who you want to have a relationship with, holding out for the right one can be pretty refreshing and empowering. Letting go of something I think is unhealthy has never been a problem for me, I have always been logical enough to know when it's time to let go of something that won't do me any good in the future, I'm not an ice queen, but I also know my worth. Everyone should  learn how  to separate emotions and logic. Break it off and don't look back.

The fear of losing yourself in a relationship can be a big deterrent from wanting to fall in love with someone, because maybe you have a habit of making it all about your partner. You become so entangled in them you forget who you are and your whole purpose because you've put so much time and effort into making them happy, you forget about yourself. So the next person that comes along you're so scared you'll forget your happiness you completely reject the notion of even entering into anything with them. There is a difference between being afraid of falling in love and not being ready. Always trust your instincts.