The Cheater

If a man cheats on you, there is no way trust is going to be 100%.Things that never use to matter before will all of a sudden become a problem," I wonder where he is", "why is he friends with her"," what's wrong with me, wasn't I good enough." this in turn makes you feel insecure and makes you look crazy.

Never blame yourself for being cheated on, if your partner isn't happy, the right thing to do is to leave. Do not listen to anybody who tells you time heals all wounds, some just won't be healed as long as u stay in it.

Forgive and Forget is easier said than done! your head will tell you to leave, but your heart won't. One of the biggest thoughts that goes through a woman's head at this time is, "it was just one time", the thing is if he did it once, he will be compelled to do it again, don't get me wrong people can change, but especially if he is young, change may not come for a while, so if you make the decision to stay, just be prepared for more heartache.

The relationship will be changed drastically, you will long for it to be how it was before, but it will never go back to that, because you will always have a spec of doubt in the back of your mind, reinstating the fact that he may do it again. The thing is any man tells you he will never hurt you, just isn't true, his motive may not be to hurt you, but we are all human and we are going to make mistakes. If a man can say to you, I won't promise that I will never hurt you, but it will never be my intent , then u have a keeper.

 It just isn't realistic to think you will never hurt your partner, that just won't happen, whether it be by the words we say or the things we do, not everybody has the same interpretation of things, so it is not impossible for someone to be hurt by something said or done. what may not seem like a big deal to you may be a big deal to your partner. I'm not talking about cheating now, if  you cheat, you have the intent to do it, whether it be 5 minutes before it happens. You don't accidentally have sex with somebody, if you cheat you know it's going to hurt your partner, there is no justification for cheating!